Memories of Dad: Recognizing Father’s Day while grieving
With Mother’s Day come and gone and Father’s Day approaching, this season can make the loss of a parent or child feel more profound. If you’re grieving a loved one, this time can induce feelings of sadness, reflection, emptiness, and anger.
There is no fix-all for grief, but through intention and preparation, you may find a connection to your loved one that can help you get through the tough emotions surrounding days celebrating parents.
Read on for some helpful suggestions for managing grief and finding ways to celebrate Mother’s and Father’s Day after a loss.
“Deeply, I know this, that love triumphs over death. My father continues to be loved, and therefore he remains by my side.”
– Jennifer Williamson
Embrace your feelings
First, it can be tremendously healing to acknowledge and embrace your feelings. Grief is a complex and deeply personal experience, and it’s okay to feel a wide range of emotions. Allow yourself to experience sadness, anger, or even relief without judgment. Remember, there is no right or wrong way to grieve.
Create a tribute
One meaningful way to honor your loved one through missing them is by creating a tribute. This could be as simple as lighting a candle, planting a tree, or dedicating a special space in your home to their memory. Sharing stories, looking at photos, or writing a letter to them can also provide comfort and keep their memory alive.
Connect with others
Connecting with friends and family can help bring light and variety to a challenging time. Share your feelings and memories with those who understand your loss. Consider attending a support group (click here to see a schedule of Mountain Valley’s free support groups) where you can meet others who are experiencing similar emotions. Sometimes, just knowing you’re not alone can make a significant difference.
Practice self-care
During these emotionally charged times, self-care is crucial. Make sure to nourish your body with healthy foods, get adequate rest, and engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation. Exercise, whether it’s a gentle walk or a yoga class, can help alleviate stress and improve your mood.
Plan ahead
Preparing for these days in advance can help you manage your emotions better. Decide how you want to spend the day and communicate your plans with others. It’s okay to set boundaries and let people know what you’re comfortable with. Whether you choose to be alone, with family, or doing something entirely different, planning can help you feel more in control.
Seek support
If your grief feels overwhelming, seeking support from a mental health professional can be beneficial. Therapists and counselors specializing in grief can provide you with tools and strategies to cope with your loss. They can also offer a safe space to express your feelings and work through your emotions. In addition to our grief support groups, Mountain Valley offers individual support, which can be requested using this form.
Engage in rituals or traditions
Engaging in rituals or traditions can provide a sense of continuity and connection. Whether it’s visiting the gravesite, preparing their favorite meal, or continuing a family tradition, these acts can help you feel closer to your loved one. Rituals can provide structure and meaning, especially during emotionally difficult times.
Remember the love
Ultimately, remembering the love and positive memories you shared with your loved one can be a source of comfort. Reflect on the happy times and the lessons they taught you. Cherishing their legacy can help transform your grief into a celebration of their life and the love you continue to hold for them.
Read more:
Father’s Day Without Dad: People Who Lost Their Dads Share How To Cope On Father’s Day (by
Brittany Wong, HuffPost)
Grieving the loss of a parent or child is never easy, especially during celebrations like Mother’s and Father’s Day. By implementing some or all of the strategies listed above, you may be able to find some peace and comfort as you remember your loved one.
